That's the title of the most watched film clip on the BBC News website this morning. It's an "exclusive" interview with the footballer Emmanuel Adebayor. He has had a hugely successful career having come from humble beginnings in Togo. And with success in football comes money. A lot of money.
I can't make any comment on Adebayor's family situation. A brief clip of an interview that gives one side of a complicated story doesn't provide the facts. In most family breakdowns facts get lost in the seething sea of feelings. But one thing is clear, the issue seems to be money. Adebayor feels that his family are more interested in his bank account than they are in his well being.
The Bible is often misquoted as saying that "money is the root of evil". It doesn't. Not that the actual verse is any less challenging. It comes is a section of brilliant teaching about a Christians attitude to dosh:
1 Timothy 3:6 But godliness with contentment is great gain. 7 For we brought nothing into the world, and we can take nothing out of it. 8 But if we have food and clothing, we will be content with that. 9 Those who want to get rich fall into temptation and a trap and into many foolish and harmful desires that plunge people into ruin and destruction. 10 For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs.
I guess that most Christians would want godliness with contentment. To live a happy life and be like Jesus. Well we'd say that we'd want that, until we see what contentment involves. Simply having food and clothing! Nothing more. Because of course that is exactly all the Lord Jesus had. Most of our problems about money come from the fact that we are not content simply with food and clothing! We want lots more than that!
We wouldn't say that we want to be rich, because by definition a rich person is someone who has a bit more than us. But we all harbour the thought that if we just had a bit more money life would be easier. It wouldn't. According to the Bible it is that lie that leads to foolish and harmful desires that plunge people into ruin and destruction.
In fact being eager for money is a form of self-harm! It leads to us piercing ourselves with all kinds of griefs. We exhaust ourselves at work. We argue with those we love about our spending. We get ratty with the kids because we're stressed about how we're going to pay the bills. We make ourselves miserable with our lack of generosity.
I guess that is what the interview with Emmanuel Adebayor showed. A family pierced with griefs. Split apart by the desire for money. With no one happier as a result.